The Sage

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Saturday, November 9, 2013

Why Don't We Just Give...!?

We all know its a good thing to do.
Give.
Most of us are very touched by stories of someone behind the person at the check out, randomly paying for their items, or people leaving a waitress a $500 tip, or the person who randomly buys a hotdog for the homeless man nearby.....  Some of us are even brought to tears watching Ellen give people new cars, or Oprah paying off someone's debt so that they can get ahead in life, or by Undercover Boss where the heads of huge companies go undercover as an employee, get to know some of the people working for them, and then at the end reveal themselves and tell them how inspired they were by the employees and gives them money or whatever they may need to advance toward their own dreams.
Giving......
It is so beautiful to so many.  Why is it so very rare in our own lives and communities?
Some people are just crazy givers.  That's all they do is give give give. People like this mostly give of themselves and not money.  Some may say that these people have emotional issues and such dedicated giving is their attempt to satisfy a pain in their own lives instead of just genuine, heartfelt giving.
Maybe....
But maybe sometimes, some of these just really get it...!
Why don't we give more?  You and me.... Us..... Why don't WE give more???

Some reflections...
For me, giving is sacred and beautiful.  I wish / wait for the day, when we all live in a gift economy.  But right here, right now, the reason I don't give more of myself.... Is because it hurts.  And because it scares me. Maybe I am not average in this but I am so ridiculously sensitive!!!  For some reason I feel other people's energy to such an extent that its very difficult for me to be around them. For this reason I don't have many friends.
People hurt.
People often don't know when to let go, back off, give space.  I feel so overwhelmed, irritated, suffocated that I am no longer of any help to them.... I just need to get away.
Some people are in such a spin that when you reach your hand out to help, all you feel is empty consumption.  They take, they smile, they awwwww, they thank you so much....  And they toss aside what you've done for them because they just didn't get it.  They didn't value it, they didn't appreciate it.  Because they're spinning too fast in this world to feel anything anymore.  This is waste, and this drains a giving soul.
Yet other people seek out giving souls just to extort their resources.  This too is waste.  It is unwise to feed such people, (metaphorically).
But then some people..... some really are in need.  Some soak up every ounce of your gift and burst forth with such genuine gratitude that it changes their world... and yours.
Giving is sacred. 
And until you can give freely with wisdom, with joy, with no regrets and no expectations WHATSOEVER!!!! Your not getting it.